The core rule is, you can criticize ideas, and you can criticize people who hold those ideas, but if you’re going to disrespect identities, I won’t approve your post. Calling women “boys” or “men”, men “girls” or “women,” or using neuter pronouns to describe either means your comment won’t be approved. This also includes faux-logical screeds about how “You are really really male/female”, appeals to genetics, and blatant assertions that cis people are not interested in relationships with trans people.
I will not approve comments that include transphobic concepts such as “woman-born woman,” which has strictly been used to justify discrimination, segregation, and cissexual supremacy in women’s spaces from MichFest to DV and rape shelters. Also, “biological male or female,” or “genetic male or female.”
These apply to first-time commenters, sock puppets, and anonymous commenters:
I will not approve comments that include oppressive language of any variety. I’m no more sympathetic to racism, sexism, ableism, or any other *ism than I am of transphobia.
I will not approve comments that attempt to assert “hierarchy of oppressions.” If you want to tell me that trans people don’t have it very bad because race or sex is worse, then I don’t really care what you have to say. The reverse is also true.
I won’t approve posts by known trolls, although that’s a very short list.
I won’t approve any post that asserts “cissexual” or “cisgender” is “othering,” “misogynist” or any other kind of slur. Trans people don’t have the cultural currency to other anyone on the basis of not being trans, and cis- words apply to both men and women.
I won’t approve transphobic screeds in general.
I won’t approve arguments about how my comment rules are a violation of your rights/silencing your opinion/etc. If you have a grievance with how I moderated you, you can take the discussion to this page, but you will not derail the ongoing conversation just to salve your wounded ego.
I won’t approve comments from first-time commenters that repeat the same old arguments we’ve all heard hundreds of times. This goes double when the arguments were already addressed in the post the commenter replied to.
I may approve comments like this, but using this language means that I will put you on permanent moderation.
I’m fine with disagreement, I really am. But this isn’t a forum for people (cis or trans) to air their transphobic grievances with me and mine. I want trans people, first and foremost, to feel safe commenting here. I’m not always perfect in that regard, but I will err in the favor of those who are oppressed and against those who are oppressors.
For other commenters:
If you do the above, you’ll be asked to check your privilege. It’s no big thing, happens to all of us.